the ideal is basically being so attracted to someone that you forget what you’re talking about and kiss for a while but also finding them so interesting that you sometimes forget that you’re kissing and talk for a while
"queer" reminds so, so many lesbians of the many, many times we’ve had it hissed down our necks as a threat, and an unsaid assurance that the next escalation would be a physical assault. that is why it is a slur
has anybody hissed “bihet” down your neck before threatening to beat your ass to a bloodied pulp next? no? didn’t think so.
"bihet" is not a fucking slur, no matter how ugly many of the applications of this word are (and believe me, i really dislike how it’s used in a lot of cases)
the fact that we’re even having this discussion ( A G A I N ) is indicative of the fact that many (especially het-partnered) bisexual women dismiss the very different landscapes and textures of our oppressions as women who love women. i’ve had the pleasure of interacting with a shitload of bisexual women who have a nuanced, compassionate understanding of some integral differences in how they are received vs. how lesbians are received by the world at large. however, i’ve seen even more that like to pretend that the (rightfully frustrating!) experience of being considered 1000% heterosexual by way of perception is just as bad as say, the fact that lesbians are inherently (by way of our lack of proximity to men) at greater risk for socially-sanctioned abuse (see: economic violence, physical/verbal violence, lack of access to necessary institutions and more) because our partnerships will have a 100% chance of being homosexual. and not just homosexual — lesbian in nature — this kind of cognitive dissonance reminds me of gay men who think they have no male privilege at all on account of their being gay.
bottom line? don’t call “bihet” a slur. criticize some of the ad-hominems that are used alongside it, sure, by all means. but, if you have access to heterosexual privilege (even if you are not heterosexual and this privilege is then simply conferred by perception,) your struggle is not the same as a lesbian’s, because otherwise you are being seriously fucking diminutive
I like it a lot, unfortunately it’s a pretty typical white savior plot which is a shame and could’ve been avoided but didn’t. Movie-wise, I wish the Capitol flag was red white and blue and I wish the Capitol’s aesthetic was more neoclassical and less obviously a dig at “Communist Dictatorship” or whatever (I did notice that in Catching Fire the president’s house was basically the white house and the buildings were more flashy and glassy in the cities). I did like the left-populism of it, workers versus decadent exploiters, I just wish it was more explicit.
I generally don’t like dystopia narratives at all, I think they’re inappropriate and misguided because they tend to gloss over the fact that we live in a dystopia right now, like as we speak. 19,000,000 people starved to death last year and will probably starve to death again this year while Amazon.com sends drones to deliver things to rich people in half an hour. Stem cell research is illegal for some reason and abortion is still a debate and there are single human beings with billions of dollars while homelessness still exists. This is a dystopia. The world we live in right now is unbelievably horrifying and must at all costs be destroyed from the ground up. We’re hurtling towards climate disasters that are going to be apocalyptic in scale and are at this point unavoidable. The president of our country makes televised jokes about how he kills children with robots and the youth love him and wear t-shirts of him.
Dystopia narratives are like, “yeah, but what if Big Government goes Out of Control?” like wow, horrifying idea there.
His body isn’t even cold yet and the New York times has already put out a shameful article declaring Nelson Mandela to be an “icon of peaceful resistance”. News outlets around the Western world are hurrying to publish obituaries that celebrate his electoral…
' ”i regret to inform u i am resigning my position as Insurance Sales Consultant bc you are all a bunch of yuppie assholes who exist to th detriment of my mental health, wishing u th best , sincerely cute emo girl”
i opened a window to abate the Heat + now there are upwards of six flies in my room. my fans , my friends, gazing lovingly at me thru compound eyes.. we share secrets, we’re gonna have a spy club togehter